Tats in Real Life
Sarcastic, Spiritual, and Sane--Random thoughts and words of encouragement from an LDS stay-at-home mom.
Friday, January 6, 2023
Just Once [warning: depressing post]
Tuesday, September 6, 2022
In the Details of our LIves
I have been so humbled and grateful for the ways God has let me know that he is aware of me and my needs lately. I need to remember these blessings and miracles. There are several that have happened in the last few weeks:
1. 2022 has been a tough year with the economy. Inflated gas prices and groceries have really put a belt around our budget. We have made lots of tweaks to how we do things in order to stay within our means. So when we got word that Jacey needed hearing aids--roughly $5,000 worth, I was a little deflated. Our audiologist encouraged us to apply for some grants, which I did. A few weeks later, I learned that between our insurance and the grant we were approved for, we were covered 100%. I literally fell on my knees and start bawling as I read the approval email.
2. Taylor plays competitive softball, and along with that comes a lot of fees (uniforms, equipment, gas, hotel, etc). Her club offers a fundraiser to help offset the club fees, and Taylor has diligently gone around to homes in our neighborhood to see if they wanted to purchase potatoes. This kid has sold almost 40 bags--covering almost all of her club fees! She's a hard worker, and I'm so grateful for her pitching in.
3. The kids love to ride bikes, but they don't exactly love putting them away where they belong. One day Jacey placed her bike where the garage door closes, and the garage door sensor didn't catch it and kept pushing down on it. It ended up bending one of our door panels. We had people come out to give us quotes on the price to fix it, and they quoted us between $1000-$1500! YIKES! Matt said he couldn't fix it, but after a lot of encouragement from me telling him how he can fix ANYTHING, he did it. It is such a blessing to be married to someone who works so hard and has a mind like his--that can take anything apart, analyze how it works, and then perfect it.
4. I had prayed to ask Heavenly Father to help me be aware of ways I could be more frugal (mind you, I'm already a pretty frugal person....) I stopped following certain accounts on social media that encouraged me to buy things I thought we needed (and they were great deals, too!) Anyway, I decided to apply for HEAT assistance and ended up getting approved for about $750 to be credited toward our gas utility bill. Inside the approval letter was another application for the Salvation Army Utility Assistance. I figured, why not? So I applied for that as well and was awarded an additional $300 to our gas bill for the year!
I realize that all of these experiences have to do with money. And no, I dont expect God to bail me out of all of our financial distresses that come along our way. Nor am I saying that if you want more money, ask God. That's not what I had prayed for. He knew the intents of my heart, and how I desired to find ways I could be better.
These little miracles really blessed our family and made me see His hand in my life. He is truly in the details. I know that He loves me and is aware of me and my struggles. Could we have paid for the garage door and hearing aids? Yes, we always tuck some money away into savings each month. We were prepared for the worst. But it's so comforting to feel that burden lifted.
Monday, August 8, 2022
Balance
Wednesday, August 3, 2022
Brats with a capital B
Tuesday, July 26, 2022
God's Hand
Sunday, June 12, 2022
Bouncin' Back
Today after church I saw an old friend from the ward that I hadn't seen in a while. She commented, "Wow! You look amazing! I never bounced back like that after having a baby." I politely smiled and thought to myself, "I dont bounce back. This has taken months of working out hard every day and watching what I'm eating, and I STILL have a ways to go."
It got me thinking about how we often look at other people and think how easy they have it in life, but we also fail to see all the "behind-the-scenes" effort they're putting into it. In relation to the gospel, sometimes we look at someone and think, "Man! Her testimony is so strong!" or "Wow! She has it so easy" or "Her lessons are always so incredible, she's a natural teacher."
How did her testimony get so strong? She's obviously worked on it. She's cultivated and nourished it. She's fed herself spiritually daily and practiced faith.
Does she really have it so easy? Or has she experienced trials and heartache that have helped her be happy and grateful in life? She's likely more patient and empathetic because of her hardships.
Is she really a natural teacher? Or has she spent hours and hours reading, studying, pondering, and praying on how to share the message with her class?
Before we jump to conclusions about how easy some people have it, let's take a step back and:
1. Be happy for her.
2. Dont compare your weaknesses to her strengths.
3. Be grateful God has placed a person like that in your life. You're likely to learn a lot from her.
Friday, May 27, 2022
The Bike
Yesterday morning my kids were standing outside with some friends waiting for the bus to arrive. One of the boys, Levi (a first grader), looked down at our lawn and said, "Hey that's my bike! Why is it here?" (He left it at our house the other day, and only lives a few houses down the street.) He shrugged it off and they got on the bus. The bike remained there.
Then this morning the same kids were outside waiting for the bus. Levi (the owner of the bike), looked down again and said, "Hey! Why is my bike still here?"
I asked him, "Did you ever take it back home?"
He responded, "No."
I would have responded with, "Then why would you expect it to have returned to your home when you failed to do anything about it?" But I didn't. He's only 6 after all.
But it got me thinking. How often do we have dreams, aspirations, or goals that we want, but fail to do anything about? Do we have a goal to get into shape, but fail to eat healthy and exercise? Do we want to have a spiritually strong family, but fail to live the gospel ourselves or teach our children from the Come Follow Me manual? Do we wish for our relationships to improve, but we remain in our comfort zones playing absent-mindedly on our smartphones, ignoring the very faces we love the most sitting right in front of us?
How often do we want something and expect a result, when we ourselves are unwilling to put in the work? We cannot assume, like Levi, that someone else is going to do it for us.
As I pondered and reflected on this experience, I thought about how we cannot expect to make it to our Heavenly Father in the Celestial Kingdom without doing the work for it. We must keep the commandments, have charity and faith, stay on the covenant path, attend church, study on our own, attend the temple, minister, teach our family, etc. It's not complicated. It's in fact, very simple. But it takes constant, consistent daily effort.
Wednesday, May 18, 2022
Spiritual Muscles
The other day before Matt came home from work I needed to move the swingset and the trampoline for the kids. The last time I helped Matt move the trampoline, I remember it being really tricky for me since I had just had a baby 2 months prior and had lost a lot of muscle mass. But I was determined to do it on my own (or maybe I was just too impatient to wait). I lifted the swingset, and shimmied the tramp over just where I needed it. When Matt arrived, the kids were excited to tell him how strong I was.
It got me thinking:
The kids know I have been working out each day and eating to fuel my body to help me build muscle. They are excited for me, and I am, too. So while they see my physical strength, are they noticing my spiritual strength?
I've made a goal to read the Book of Mormon again (1 chapter a day), and a General Conference talk each day, on top of my study of the Old Testament. Since doing this for three weeks, I've definitely noticed a difference in my spirituality. I feel better, and I recognize promptings better, too.
Do I emphasize spirituality as much as I do physical health? I dont know, but it's something for me to ponder on and help me be better.